So today’s post is a rant. In this moment, I’m really annoyed. If I could describe being a single woman in 2017 in one word, it would be exhausting.
Generally, dating is for weeding out the people you aren’t compatible with to find that one person that’s a match for you. In today’s world, it seems like most people meet online. Through Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or like Tinder/Bumble. All of the beginning communication isn’t done face to face, so it’s hard to tell what the person’s intention is or if they’re being genuine. Through a phone screen, it’s so easy to tell someone whatever they want to hear. But, actions speak louder than words. I am so tired of talking to seemingly great guys, and then when it’s time to meet or commit to setting a date, radio silence. Don’t get me wrong, I go on dates but I’m still single and writing this, so you probably can guess how those dates go. Some are nice people, but just not the right fit for me. But, I’m 24… I’m not 18, 19 or 20 anymore. I’m dating to marry. I am looking for someone to spend my life with, I’m not rushing into anything but those are my intentions. I’m not looking to hang out with someone for a couple months and then things fizzle out. For example, if we set a time to meet and then I don’t hear from you for hours and then you say, “Oh maybe we can get dinner tonight.” No, forget it then. I’m looking for someone who’s going to commit to a date and show up on time. We all know we are going to make it happen if we want to be there. And to clarify, things come up and things like that but if it’s an ongoing theme with someone… I’m done. Boy bye!
Here’s another issue I run into. My personality type is interesting, or maybe not. Tell me if you’re like this too. I LOVE talking to people, I crave connections, friendly or potential romantic ones. I just love talking, getting to know someone and having good conversation, REAL conversation. Not like about the weather or what my favorite color is. I like deep conversations. I like really getting to know someone. I’m not a surface level type of person. So, this is where it gets tricky. I go back and forth with downloading the apps like Tinder and Bumble and then deleting them and then downloading them all over again. It’s a thing. Because, I meet some really cool people to talk to on there and then we plan on meeting and then it’s radio silence or they turn out to be fuc*boys. So I’m on there to enjoy conversations and then someone draws me in and we go out, and it’s a disaster. If you asked me about the kind of dates I’ve been on, you would laugh in horror. (Some have been normal) but I could write a book. So then something happens where I am over the apps, and I decide I want to meet someone organically at like a coffee shop or however it happens and I delete them but then I crave connecting so the vicious cycle starts back over again. I don’t think I am alone on this.
I wish our dating culture was different, what it was like before cell phones and you had to approach the person in person to say hi. Then, getting to know someone and then they ask you out and not ask to “Netflix and Chill” or text you at midnight. I really appreciate old fashioned dating, being courted and maybe the guy brings you flowers and doesn’t expect anything from you in turn except your company. I hate the line more than anything when I’m talking to a guy and he says, “so if I take you out on a date, what do I get in return?” Um, my company?! Hellooooo that’s what a date is. I know what they are implying but I love saying, “Oh you get a nice gold star.” 🙂
I love writing. When I decided to write this post earlier, I was so annoyed. I felt defeated by something that happened to me earlier and now I feel a lot better. There’s something so therapeutic about blogging. It’s something I do for me but when someone tells me that they agreed or could relate to something I said in my blog, that’s even better.
Dating sucks most of the time, but I am hopeful there’s someone out there that’s going to appreciate my awkward, dorky self and be genuine with me one day. 😉 If anyone has any dating horror stories, I would love to hear them. We can exchange them.
Alrighty, I’m out. I’m headed to Rachel’s goodbye dinner at Mellow. I’m going to miss her!
Thanks for reading,